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In the flood of my daily emails, I often find some meaningful words of wisdom. The story below is from the MEDA newsletter (www.MEDAinc.org). MEDA is the Multi-service Eating Disorders Association, a helpful resource for people who struggle with balancing food and weight. I hope you enjoy this story about Invisible Victories. If you are a compulsive exerciser (perhaps disguised as a dedicated athlete), perhaps it will inspire you to add some gentleness to your day.

 

Invisible Victories

By Whitney Post, former World Champion and Olympic Rower

www.thebodyself.com

 

We live in a culture that is always looking for the shiny accomplishment.  We are taught to be good, to look good, to achieve more-and it never seems to end.  Yet I have found over and over again that the tasks and achievements that are most in line with my recovery are invisible, humble acts that won't take up space on my resume and that I probably won't want to tell anyone about at a cocktail party.  Each month in this column I will celebrate an invisible victory that I or one of my clients has accomplished.  My hope is that it will help you be better able to spot and celebrate your own.

 

I want to thank Rachel Bikofsky, our May 2010 Invisible Victory Contest winner for sharing her strength and growth in this essay about the Boston Marathon.  I believe it belongs on the medal stand because it articulates something so many of us feel when we see high level athletes, or witness events we think our "perfect" or "preferred" selves should be participating in.  The victory here comes in accepting her own body's truth about what is right and balanced, and releasing old ideas of who she should be.

 

 

My Invisible Victory – by Rachel Bikofsky

Today was the 114th Boston Marathon, and I didn't run it.  Nor did I run the 113th, or the 112th, or any marathon ever, at any time.  Every year in recent memory, I have used Marathon Monday as an excuse to berate myself endlessly for my lack of strength and discipline-obviously, if I possessed those qualities, I'd be running.  So this year, as the big event loomed once more, I approached it with my usual sense of trepidation...and was pleasantly surprised to be greeted not with self-hatred, but with acceptance and clarity.  Here's what I know:

            I did not run the Marathon, and this used to mean that I was weak.  But, I know I'm not weak, because I wake up at 5:45 every morning, get to work an hour later, and have energy enough to shepherd 25 rambunctious third graders through a full day of learning, five days a week.

            I did not run the Marathon, and this used to mean I was undisciplined.  But, I know I'm not undisciplined, I just save my discipline for things that matter to me, and running doesn't.  I work hard, I study meticulously, I make to-do lists and schedules and stick to them.  If I set a goal, I do my best to meet it, and I'm pretty sure that's what discipline is about.

            I did not run the Marathon, and this used to mean I'd never have the body I wanted.  Well, it does mean I'll never have a marathoner's body, but it doesn't have to mean I'll never have a body I'm satisfied with.  Also, it probably means for me I'll have a better chance of keeping my period, and won't have to endure the pain of running with stress fractures in my feet ever again.  It means I'll be gentler with my body, and my body and spirit will reflect that.

            I did not run the Marathon, and this used to mean I'd never get medals or have people cheer for me.  Okay, so it probably does eliminate one possible avenue for medal winning.  But last week, one of my students presented me with two tiny origami swans he had made for me in art class.  Better than a medal?  It was for me.

            I did not run the Marathon, and this used to mean I had no worth.  While it's true that I'm not a runner, I am a person who stops to touch wildflowers and exclaim over nature, who is intuitive to the needs of others, who loves her family, and who can soothe a crying child.  I am a thinker, a writer, and a person with a wicked sense of humor.  I am all of those things, so I can also accept what I am not.

            What not running the Marathon means is simply that I am not a marathon runner-and there is no longer a value judgment attached to that statement.  It's neither good nor bad, it's just what is.  And, I'm finally, finally okay with that, or at least more okay than I've ever been before. I did not run the race, or win a medal...., but I have earned an invisible victory, and I think the 114th Boston Marathon has been my best one yet. 

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Nancy Clark RD CSSD

Nancy Clark RD CSSD

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Hi! I specialize in nutrition for exercise, and help active people figure out how to manage food, weight, exercise, energy and enjoyment of eating. Let me know if you have any questions!

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