I was at our travel organizational coaches meeting this weekfor our eight teams and a common concern among the coaches was the parents whowere constantly complaining about x, y, z. You know...questioning theirdaughter's playing time, their daughter's position, questioning the battingorder (why "lesser" players were batting higher), questioning thecoaches' strategic moves during a game, questioning pitch calls...
Our travel organization is among the best in the nation at creating championsand getting our girls athletic scholarships into big time universities,according to the Triple Crown Sports/USA Softball polls, and still some of ourparents aren't happy.
The question our General Manager asks these parents when faced with criticismor complaint: "Is your daughter getting better?" Invariably theparent has to admit that she is.
You see mastery of a very difficult game like fastpitch softball takes time; itis a journey that cannot be completed overnight. For parents of athletes whoare 10-14 years old, don't worry...there is still plenty of time for yourdaughter to develop her game and the right college coaches to find her. Beingimpatient about her development isn't the answer. In fact it is probablyhindering her development through the added pressure she feels from you; not tomention alienating yourself with her coaches can't help her either.
To be fair to all parties concerned the first question you need to askyourself, as objectively as possible, is whether or not your athlete is playingon the right team. Here are a few issues to consider:
-- Are the coaches qualified (not just their skill level but are the practiceschallenging and efficient)?
-- Does the coach possess a positive attitude that gets the most out of his/herplayers?