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Click to view Archelon070's profile Pro 99 posts since
Sep 24, 2005
30. Apr 28, 2007 7:16 AM in response to: rockchalkchick
Re: Ever have someone play down your tri efforts?
To Answer the OP, yes, people downplay or have weird reactions to my tri efforts all the time. I ignore it.

I actually dislike the "OMG you're SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO amazing"'s just as much as I dislike the belittling ones. Mainly I keep my tri info to myself.
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Sep 24, 2005
31. Apr 28, 2007 7:27 AM in response to: rockchalkchick
Re: Ever have someone play down your tri efforts?
In response to the Significant Other feeling competetive, possibly doing the race:

Well - if it seems to be heading in that direction, why not? While the way it sounds now , there may indeed be feelings of inadequacy and being threatened..you never know what positive things these feelings might blossom into after a race day experience. (I realize that was an illiterate run-on sentense, sorry).

Anonther component to consider - being able to survive the 3 events is very very different from actually executing a triathlon optimally. Just cruising this forum is like studying for your test.

I have a friend who did his first sprint; he posted an inexplicable TWELVE MINUTE t1. he said he "just didn't think " to lay out and organize his stuff. Plus he never wore a wetsuit before and it took him longer to get out of it than he'd planned.

My other 2 runner friends did the sprint with me last Sunday -- neither one wore a watch or kept track of their splits. Sure enough, there was a problem with the chip timing, and neither one had any.idea. what they had done for any of the events. I was like "no chip, no problem, it's all on my watch". I had my eye on those splits the whole time and that helped me achieve my goal. (Oh, and one of them forgot a towel.)

It's amazing all of the non-physical stuff that comes into play in a triathlon and can really help you out. And also 100% agree that a short race done properly is every bit as challenging.

Good luck! heidi
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Dec 14, 2007
32. Apr 28, 2007 7:32 AM in response to: rockchalkchick
Re: Ever have someone play down your tri efforts?
quote:<HR>Originally posted by rockchalkchick:
Hee hee - the funny part is that I did call his bluff! I told him he probably wouldn't be ready for a July 8 tri, but that if he wanted to join me for one in September I'd love to have him train with me - he could start with beginning to run and be ready to go to the pool with me when I move to the same city in mid-June. His answer: "Oh....well... I'd have to find a bike... and some swim trunks that fit.... I don't know that I can do that just now." Given that he's extremely overweight and inactive, I doubt he's going to be doing tri's any time soon, though I would love to have him do it with me!

Frankly, I was a little taken aback by his comments, since he was implying "if you can do it, I certainly can!" even though he knows how much I've been working to get in better condition these last several months (and he hasn't). As long as he's willing to put in some effort and join me in the sport, I'm more than willing to help him out and get him started - the only problem is if he means to continue to do nothing and belittle my efforts, too! (I'm sure we all know a few people who love to boast about how they "would" do X, Y, or Z if it weren't for _____ - I just didn't expect to find that attitude in my future spouse!)
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I feel bad for him. Not you. He needs your help to become more confident in himself. You are strong and he knows that. It is normal for a man to try to combat that. Let him try to be strong. Give hints on how he can do that. Make yourself look week if that is what it takes. You love him don't you?