I wasted the entire lunch time trying to fix a flat, no flatS, today

I patched a flat Sunday evening, but noticed the tire was flat when I was trying to ride today. So I removed the tube, patched a hole, put it back and tried to pump... air leak noise, Grrrrrrr. So I repeated the above process. And another hole. and then another. I was too stubborn to let this thing defeat me. But after 5th leak, I gave up. Went to LBS and bought 3 tubes. (Afterwards, I got a really really short hair cut simply because I was so mad.) Is patch supposed to be a temporary fix and you don't keep patching? I think I kept on cutting into a tube accidentaly while I was trying to put the tire back onto the rim, using one of those metal lever thingie. It is very difficult. I had a few cuts on my hands and blood stain on the rim to show. Are there any secrets? Now I am so afraid to go for a ride during a lunch time, especially if I have a meeting in the PM..... I didn't have any flat for a long stretch, but since this May, one after another. Do you think this has something to do with the rear tire which has lost some rubber from hours of trainer ride?
This whole bike thing is just too complicated to me. I can't help thinking how simple my life was when I was just running.....