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unlike most parents, she doesn't want me doing a sport at all. she tries to make me not go to practice and thinks that i shouldn't have to go to practice any more than 4 out of the 6 weekly practices. Even though i'm a captain she doesn't consider the captains practices mandadory for me to attend. the worst of it was last year she said to me and one of my friends on the team, "I hope you guys don't get into states, because i don't want to take you home from practice for another week." this pissed me off so much that i got into states as a freshman (i'll be a sophomore this coming school year) just in spite of her, but how do i make her understand how important cross country really is to me???
by the way, i get really good grades (all A's and B's) and am in 3 honors classes. i'm in perfectly good health, too. i don't see why she doesn't want me to run!
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wow, that really stinks! I'm a mom and my oldest boy ran XC and now my 2 younger boys are into it (freshman & 7th grade).
Don't let her get you down, it sounds like you are hanging tough anyway... good for you! Is your Dad around at all? Is he more supportive?
Good luck this season & congrats for making it to states last year! Hang in there!
Have some teammates talk to your mom. and since you R getting good grades, your mom should let you keep doing what you love to do! Keep running! Have fun and keep talking nice to your mom. It'll work out!
Is there any way you could do a carpool kind of thing where your teammate's mom picks you up half the time and your mom picks up your teammate half the time? Then your mom wouldn't have as much to complain about.
I did this in high school and I think it helped my mom out a lot.
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theres some stuff on tinternet somewhere bout excercise actually improving grades n whatnot
Yea it was in Mens' health. Running improves your thinking which helps you learn better. I don't know for sure, but I have heard of it. It made me feel good about blowin off homework for running.
I think it has to do with better managing your time. Plus after a long run you arent going to go outside and screw around, youre going to go inside and sit down so you might as well do your homework when youre sitting down. That second comment was a bit of a stretch but time management is true.
did u have any medical problems or anything/doctor told you not to run? if not then i cant understand why she would do that, try to show her some articles saying that its good to run etc.
There might be a lot of reasons why your mom isn't 100% supportive. How many people are in your family? How many times does she have to drive to school and back to pick you up and/or your other siblings? Does she also work? Plus 6 days a week is a bit excessive if your mom has to drive you around all of the time? Does she wash your cloths everyday, considering you run almost every day of the week? Maybe she wants you to spend more time with the family because you spend most of it in school, running and doing homework? Anyways, what I'm saying is it's hard to judge the situation without enough information.
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You could try doing it entirely on your own. If your mom only dislikes taking you around, then find your own rides, ride your bike if you're close, or maybe even the bus. My mom dislikes my wrestling, and hates it when I can't be at home to help (didn't mind at all my being gone for xc or swimming) she said. That's a different thing-I just started cleaning the kitchen and doing house laundry and other chores of hers, and she laid off. Confront her-but only once, and preferably with someone else you both trust to mediate, to decide on the problem. If she listens, says what she needs, and you can fix it, by getting rides or whatever you need to, great. If she doesn't, because for some reason she simply dislikes running (my mom hates "violence," even though wrestling has rules against brawling type moves) then you'll have to drop it, and do the best you can, I guess.
But try getting rides like neverenough said-I'm sure any upperclassman on the team would be more than happy to, or even the coach, especially if you're a state qualifier.
that's the thing, my mom DOES hate running. i've explained the health benefits and all that jazz, and it just seems to bounce right off her. i would definately ride my bike to school if i could, but i'm about 15 miles away. some people do live near me (which is brand new this year. that didn't happen last year) that i may be able to hitch a ride from. i'll certainly try.
Maybe it would be better for your Mom if you were a beer drinking, pot smoking, lazy derelict with horrible grades. Man, I'm sorry you are not getting the support you need from home.
When I was in school playing football and running track, I got NO support from my parents. I had to ride my bike to workouts and find my own way to practices. And what really hurt, my parents never went to ONE of my games or meets.
Hang in there, just don't get discouraged and quit running!!!
Whoa, thats so weird. Have you tried asking her exactly what it is about running she doesn't like? I share rides a lot too so you should try that. Anywho, just keep doin what you love.