Re: meary's thread got me to thinking...keeping my kids away from my dad
{{{idorunrun, and her mom and dad}}}
idorunrun, I know this is hard to believe, but your mother is doing the right thing by keeping him at home.
One of the things I saw working in a nursing home was the utter confusion and despair of men with Alzheimer's. They missed their wives and wanted to go home. They didn't know where they were - sometimes they thought they were in jail, or being punished - and given that they had no capacity to retain new information - in short, to make memories - they were angry and frightened.
And they didn't need no stinkin' baths, either!
It's hard on everyone. But I really believe that if there is a way to keep a loved one at home that's where they belong.
As to your sons - it's up to them, I think. But one thing I always hear that I'm sick of is that it's the same person. No, it is not. That person has died a terrible, slow death and this IS a stranger in a lot of ways.
As to being embarrassed - fukk anyone who doesn't like it. It's your father and her husband. Fukk 'em if they can't take a joke.
Your mom's doing a good thing.
