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Click to view arerick's profile Amateur 11 posts since
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Nov 7, 2007 9:05 PM

Coming out of the (running) closet!

I am ready to admit it. I feel like a runner. I just finished w6d3 and haven't repeated a day yet. Earlier this week, I ran in 25 degrees with a strong north wind. That was when I knew I was committed.

How have you dealt with telling people? I do not have a runner's body and never had. My husband told me he never thought I'd make it this far (it was a compliment-and I took it as one). Now I'm to the point where I'm starting to commit my "new running" self to others. I am sure there will be chuckles and comments such as "You?!?! Really?!?!" I'm still overweight, but I'm still committed. I'm worried about the judgement that I think others will put on me (you've been running and still haven't lost more weight, you run slow, etc).

So far, my husband and 2 other girlfriends know I'm a runner. When did you tell people you were a runner and how did you deal with the stigma that can come with it?
Click to view mrinertia's profile Legend 1,356 posts since
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1. Nov 7, 2007 9:24 PM in response to: arerick
Re: Coming out of the (running) closet!
I started running during my lunch break, so CW knew about it as did my family. Other than that, I didn't say anything to anybody until they noticed I was losing weight. When asked, I'd tell them about the changes I made to my diet and that I had started running.
Click to view melaniemae427's profile Legend 302 posts since
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2. Nov 7, 2007 9:28 PM in response to: arerick
Re: Coming out of the (running) closet!
The first time I told anyone other than my family was when I did a race and started to lose some weight. Now I try and recruit as many people as I can!! And anyone that laughs at you or makes fun of you for this is not a nice person and is probably jealous. Good for you for all that you've accomplished and what you will accomplish in the future!!!
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3. Nov 7, 2007 9:33 PM in response to: arerick
Re: Coming out of the (running) closet!
I have dealt with the chuckles, but found them to be more motivating than anything. When I was training for my frist race (A HM) I told a girl I had worked with before, who i knew was a runner, so I thought she would be cool to me about it, but she just kind of looked at me and chuckled, "you're running anf half marathon? Mhm." I knew she thought because I wasn't skinny that there was no way I could do it... even on race day I didn't really feel like I looked like runner, but I did the race, and finished, which was my only goal.
Click to view GOLFNSKI's profile Pro 104 posts since
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4. Nov 7, 2007 10:49 PM in response to: arerick
Re: Coming out of the (running) closet!
Why tell anyone? It's more fun when others take notice. Congrats on your progress.

Cheers.
Click to view slick7781's profile Pro 64 posts since
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5. Nov 7, 2007 10:55 PM in response to: arerick
Re: Coming out of the (running) closet!
It took me nearly two years to accept the "title" of runner. I kept thinking that because I was only running 4-5 miles, every other day, that I wasn't a real runner. My running buddy has convinced me that I am indeed, a runner but I rarely say anything about it to anyone unless they ask. People who don't run generally aren't all that interested, and they don't understand any way.
Click to view JelloBelly's profile Amateur 28 posts since
Dec 14, 2007
6. Nov 8, 2007 9:53 AM in response to: arerick
Re: Coming out of the (running) closet!
QUOTEOriginally posted by arerick:
[B]I am ready to admit it. I feel like a runner. I just finished w6d3 and haven't repeated a day yet. Earlier this week, I ran in 25 degrees with a strong north wind. That was when I knew I was committed.

Good for you!!

My DH knows I am running (I'm doing c25k sort of and am in week 6). He has said he's glad I'm running, but whenever I come in from a run, he looks directly at my stomach with a strange look like he thinks it should have fallen off. He's also made comments about how "fat" people are not runners and he's said things to me like "Did you run or walk?", but not in a nice, interested way. More like in a sarcastic way. I am not "fat", I just have a jellobelly and I try to ignore his snotty commentary and get my motivation here at CR.

Jello
Click to view Hikerchick8's profile Pro 86 posts since
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7. Nov 8, 2007 10:02 AM in response to: arerick
Re: Coming out of the (running) closet!
Congratulations! If you feel like it, tell anybody who will listen. It's a great accomplishment. I know where you are coming from, though. I didn't tell anybody at work either, until one day my boss told me I was looking "fit". I was grinning ear to ear.
Click to view sully702's profile Pro 124 posts since
Jul 9, 2007
8. Nov 8, 2007 10:04 AM in response to: arerick
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Don't worry about it Jello. Keep with the running and in no time you can kick your husbands a$$.

Your doing great! Keep it up.
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9. Nov 8, 2007 10:07 AM in response to: arerick
Re: Coming out of the (running) closet!
JelloBelly, Please accept my apology from the male race.
Click to view JelloBelly's profile Amateur 28 posts since
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10. Dec 25, 2007 10:46 PM in response to: arerick
Re: Coming out of the (running) closet!
quote:<HR>Originally posted by scvdsr:
JelloBelly, Please accept my apology from the male race. <HR>


Thanks sully and scvdsr! Hah! I also wanted to say to the OP when DH says something sarcastic to me I usually tell him he is a dork or an a$$hat - with a smile of course. I think I will shut him up eventually, I will likely never kick his a$$. He is tall and thin and very fit but his version of running is to buy a new pair of Nike's every twelve months, run 10 miles the first day he has them and that's it. It takes some of us longer to build up to 10 miles! The good news is that my 9 year old daughter has noticed what I'm doing and has asked if she can come with me sometimes! I think that's great!

Jello



http://This message has been edited by JelloBelly (edited Nov-08-2007).
Click to view sully702's profile Pro 124 posts since
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11. Nov 8, 2007 10:20 AM in response to: arerick
Re: Coming out of the (running) closet!
You go girl! Just keep it up. Your doing it for you not him and your being a great model for your daughter.

You've taken a gutsy step in starting to run. Don't let anyone ever try to take away from what your doing!
Click to view kelb011's profile Amateur 8 posts since
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12. Nov 8, 2007 10:23 AM in response to: arerick
Re: Coming out of the (running) closet!
Jello Belly:
Being a role model for your daughter in terms of fitness is awesome!! It's a bummer that your DH can't be more supportive.

I have developed a jello belly of my own these days but keep on with my running. I don't run far or fast but who cares--I'm out there and that's all that matters. I like to think that I'm role modeling fitness for my kids and helping to prevent a recurrence of breast cancer.

Keep up the great work!
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13. Nov 8, 2007 10:39 AM in response to: arerick
Re: Coming out of the (running) closet!
When I started C25K, I didn't hide it from anyone, but I also didn't run down the halls at work announcing it. If it came up in conversation, I would tell people I had started a running program and that I was signed up to run a 5K. I never received a single snicker. There may have been some people who laughed behind my back, but, if so, I don't know and I don't care. I'm a runner because I say I am. Even after losing 122 lbs, I'm still overweight, but so what? I'm doing something positive to make my life and health better. I'm now training to run/walk a half marathon. I put it up on my white board at work and I've told everyone I know.

And to JelloBelly - when I first started trying to lose weight, my DH was not very supportive. It wasn't that he tried to dissuade me, but he never really celebrated my successes with me. There was a lot of tension around the fact that I was doing something that he needed to do as well. It's taken me over 2 years to get this far and he's come a long way. He finally told me after I had run my 5K how proud he was of me, so hang in there. Don't let him sabotage your efforts.

Marilyn
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14. Nov 8, 2007 11:05 AM in response to: arerick
Re: Coming out of the (running) closet!
scvdsr, that was nice. :-)

this won't be much use, I just wanted to say I know how you feel. I've been running for almost a year now. I don't know whether I consider myself a runner, or whether anyone else would either. But at the same time I'm so excited about it & surprised by it that sometimes I want to accost innocent strangers with the news. Remember Bill Murray.... "I'm sailing!!".

btw, congratulations!