Why would you go. The man is out of your life and should stay that way. I have seen my dear old dad twice in the last 25 years. Talked to him once on the phone.

All of contacts were a result of my sister laying a guilt trip on me. What a mistake it was to see him. Still the same a$$hole that he ever was.

Never again.

I regret not being with my father and grandfather when they passed. My stepfather can't die fast enough!

Makeda brought up a good point. Are the relatives asking for themselves, or are they relaying a request from your father?

That doesn't really matter with what you decide though. My thought is, in black and white, it's just what you do for family. You can go on that premise alone. Keep it civil. Be the bigger person. I had a situation kind of like this recently and thought it would be very difficult, but it's amazing how everyone else, if your father doesn't notice, will see how generous you are being and will treat you with respect.

I also agree, you will regret it down the road if you don't.

Never hurts to leave the door open for a little reconciliation, especially late in life as this seems to be.