Tall, I am so sorry to hear of your struggles. Many of us have gone through this, or are now. If you have faith in your life, lean on that to help you move forward. If you don't have it, perhaps that would be a direction you can look to. You will not be given more than you can handle. Keep running, posting, and we'll be here to help where we can.
As it turns out, I'm a family law attorney. From what little I know of your situation, it sounds like your family will make it through fine with your children's best interests in mind. This business can get very ugly, so I send you my deepest hope that things work out as they should after using all resources available such as parenting through divorce classes, counseling, etc. If you keep the big picture in sight, the little stuff shouldn't matter. There, that's my speech-hope it helps.
Tall, I'm sending my best wishes for all of you. It sounds like you did everything you could. I'm glad you felt like you could call on your boomer friends and hope you will not hesitate to look to us for support as you work through this difficult time.
Tall - wishing you and your family all the best during this difficult time. I hope you, your wife and your kids find a special peace during this time. Can't imagine how difficult this must be. I'll keep you in my prayers. We all need them.
So sorry to hear of your situation, Tall. In 11/92 my husband of 22 years told me he didn't want to be married anymore. We had two daughters (11 & 15). We really didn't have any problem with custody. We did joint custody, but I had physical custody. There were some trying times, but then I met MrMunch and he met someone. The children used to say how they wanted us to get back together. I would ask them...do you want two parents who aren't happy or four parents that are happy?! Hang in there and know you will get lots of support and encourage from all of us. Hugs & prayers to you all.
Wow, such sad news, I'm so sorry. Sounds like you've made the right choice as painful as it was. My guess is that this is best for your girls. Lots of positive vibes headed your way.
Very sorry to hear this. I'm sure it has been a tough time and of course it will be so for a while ahead but I know you will find your way. As the solar one said - running will be a good outlet. And lean on us whenever you need to. We will be here for you.
Tall, I also empathize and can identify with your situation. Just keep running-it's kept me sane for the last 34 years. Marj and I certainly are aware how important it is to keep focussing on our relationship. My 2 children who were about the age of your children when their mother and I divorced are now my best friends and our relationship is stronger than ever.
For you, Tall, in addition to the running, of course, trips into the wilderness -- canoeing, camping, snowshoeing -- will help with the rough patches. (Of course, you already know this.)
Staying married for a long time is a bumpy ride for sure. DH and I have been together for 25 years, and have come close to separating a couple of times, but overall we're doing OK. But it's never easy. Add kids to the equation, and deciding whether to stay together or split up gets even harder. I wish you and your family all the best.
So sorry you are going through this, My thoughts and prayers are with you. It sounds like you have a good attitude, You did the best you could to make it work. I'm sure you are doing what is best for the kids. The transition to the next chapter will have many low points but you know better times are ahead.
We are all here for you.