These two blog posts are from former college softball players about their experience with recruiting and advice. There is a whole blog, where these two are from, with posts from different college athletes. I just stumbled upon it, but it's pretty cool. It's called From the Trenches.
Here is a link: http://community.active.com/blogs/fromthetrenches
Being recruited for me was a whirlwind in itself, I was being recruited for Football though which is a whole other ballgame. I would say just to make sure the school fits you as a person and ask ALOT of questions when you talk to coaches or when visiting the school
Coaches are always watching to learn more about you, which means on and off the field. Be on your best behavior at all times.
Put time and energy into the process. If coaches don't come to you - go to them.
Do your research. Look into lots of schools and then narrow them down as you go.
Be honest with coaches and demand the same honesty from them in return.
Choose a school that you will enjoy even if you aren't playing a sport. You never know what could happen. It's important to pick a school, not just an athletic program.
In my senior season at a school I was recruited to, I am now doing a lot of work in attracting recruits on their visits, so can say I have experienced a lot on both ends. Keep in mind that they are always going to make the school look it's best. I always like when I am asked the hard-hitting ,honest questions, and personally wish I had gotten to spend more time with the teams I was being recruited to off the field, and gotten to ask questions about them as a team. Try making a list of questions about things that are important to you, and asking them to members of the current team to help you make your decision. Ask more than one team member the same question. Best of luck!