No,this is not the way it is! I have been coaching for over 15years at every level from little league to 18u travel Soft Ball and I have never allowed that kind of behavior from players,parents or assistant coaches and I never will. There are always going to be over zealous players,parents and yes even coaches and we all make mistakes, that being said once is a mistake with a discussion 2x is a warning with a suspension and 3 strikes you are out. I am happy to report that I have only had to suspend 2 players in all my years and it was one of the hardest things in my life but it was the best thing I could do for the kids because if their behavior continued unaddressed the message is that it is ok to behave in a disruptive manor and it is not ok. The whole idea is about a positive experience for the kids and the families,which is why we have and will enforce both a players and parents code of conduct.As manager I will immediately address the coaches behavior and the director of my organization will hold me accountable for my behavior as I expect him to. I have had the honor and privelage of coaching hundreds of kids ( both boys and girls ) through out my years and they have taught me so much more about kids than I could have hoped to teach them about playing ball.