being this is late in my reply you may not get this at all!
i just did my very first tri last weekend (june 11th) at the ann arboe/pinkney, michigan one. it was very difficult due to hills hills and more hills! and the run was on a very narrow true trail. HOWEVER...there were LOTS of newbies along with me that i met.
my friend was supposed to do it with me but wasn't ready for the swim.
tips: for the swim:
1. stay to the back and or off to one side. if in back, let people get a little ahead so you don't get on their feet. that way you do not get kicked, etc.
2.A MUST: YOU MUST BE ABLE TO LIFT YOUR HEAD UP EVERY 5-6 STROKES (or whenever you feel it necessary) to look ahead of you to be able to see where you are going. practice this in the pool every lap you do. if it's very difficult, start out with 1-2 lifts per lap, then add more as you stregnthen your neck up. IF YOU CANNOT LIFT YOUR HEAD TO SEE WHERE YOU ARE GOING then wait to do a race until you are ready. There is no point in swimming in circles (literally). (this was why my friend backed out).
you can stop and tread water to see where you are going when you feel like it (this is where the wet suit will come in handy as it helps keep you afloat). The race i did had 560 people in it. but there were only 31 in my age group along with the clidesdale men in my "wave". so it wasn't crowded.
a wave after you might pass you, but by then the swimmers will be stretched out and not so crowded. it just depends on how many people per wave.
also consider doing the duathlon. that way you get the experience of doing the event but not having the pressure of the swim. so next race you will get an idea of it. Or volunteer as one person mentioned!
my friend got extremely nervous about the swim and almost backed out of doing any tri in the future. i think she will still consider doing one once she is strong enough to lift her head up. I would hate for you to get discouraged and quit before you have a chance to do one!!!! They are very fun: which is the point of it all!!!!
I was 3rd out of the water in my wave (swam during whole childhood competitively!), 27th i think in my bike (i have a mountain bike! very slow!!! i was like the tortaise! not that a road bike would help that much!) and 24th in my age group in my run! But i had a blast!!!! i was 453rd place in all!
it does not matter what you have, just go out and do it!! and have fun fun fun!!
EVERYONE was sooo helpful! i asked many questions to people around me. they were more than helpful and very encouraging!
there are volunteers stationed at points throughout the race cheering you on and giving you encouragement! even the other athletes will encourage you as they pass you, or you pass them!
As one source put it: it's like doing your typical workout with 100's cheering you on!
anyways, i guess i'm babbling here!!!
good luck and have fun!
p.s. my nerves didn't settle until the swim was almost done, and really didn't settle until days later! haha
p.s.s. you can get a surfing style wet suit at costco for $35 or $40. that is what i was going to where, but the water was warm enough. a tri wet suit will help slower swimmers be faster, that is what the owner of the event told me. he said he is a slow swimmer. so it's up to you.