On the one hand you say that you don't tolerate that behavior from coaches and on the other you say that if the coach treats his players taht way, so be it.  Which is it? I DO have kids, and the best thing you can do for a kid is be straight with them.  "G-D it, dude" doesn't come close to crossing the line.  Now if the response from the ump was something like "What the F#^k is that matter with you??  Catch the G-D ball!", that's a problem.  But you being from St. Louis and all (guessing by the handle), where people are just so, well, nice, I guess you have different standards.  As an aside, I'd have a couple words for the coach, asking him why he wants to use me as a backstop for a kid who can't catch.  I'd ask him if he'd like to have baseballs thrown at him all night long.  And I'd end it by saying that the next time I got hit, I'm calling the game from behind the pitcher when his team is in the field, and the view ain't so good from out there.

Where I live the parents would be all over the pres and any other officer they could find complaining about it. Things may be different where you live.

I guess you skipped over what else ensued during the incident. Please go back and read it.

When in Rome . . . .

I can imagine that there are a lot of complaints where you live. What did I skip concerning the "incident"?  The part where the coach demands that the umpire apologize to the clueless catcher?  That's not happening.  The kid AND coach should apologize to the umpire.