Traditionally, the holidays are a time for family. So what better time to take a step back and re-evaluate your prioritiesthan during this time when things usually slow down a bit? Especially when it comes to being a parent/coach.
Most people who coach start out for the right reasons. Usually a team their daughter is on needs a coach, the coach has some knowledge and wants to give back to the game, and the parents wants to spend more quality time with his/her daughter.
Somewhere along the way, though, competitive natures come out and even for those with the best intentions it becomes a little less about spending time with your daughter and more about racking up the W's. That's when the trouble starts.
Suddenly your daughter isn't your daughter anymore. She's the kid who threw a pitch down the middle on an 0-2 count with the winning run on second. Or she's the kid who dropped the easy fly ball, booted the grounder, or popped up with runners in scoring position.
At that point, just when she needs a hug and a Lifesaver candy, she instead gets the dagger eyes from the coach/parent who expected her to do better in that tough situation. "She's a better player than that," you think. "She knew the game was on the line and she choked. Arrrgggghhh!"
Yes, that's true. She is, and she did. She knows it. She definitely knows it. And what she needs is a parent to tell her everything will be ok, the sun will come up tomorrow and the world will keep on spinning. But if you're too busy being the Coach, you may forget to tell her that.
I've said it before and I'll say it again: kids are not short adults.